The grouchy Ladybug

Intoxicating Love

2011-02-02T12:22:00.000-08:00

Proverbs 5 says
"Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well.
Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares?
Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers.
May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love."

I really like this passage. The water spoken in this passage resembles love. I don't think it's talking about a neighborly type of love but about a passion-intimate intoxicating type of love that's shared between a husband and wife.

This precious love cannot be shared and isn't meant to overflow in the streets. I think of a family in the olden days who had a well as their water source. They had worked hard to maintain these waters, for it to overflow into the streets would be wasteful and devastating I'm sure!!

My and Joels love is to be drank by only Joel and I. It would only be wasteful and devastating if we ever shared with others.

I like even more that the passage ends with "May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love."

God doesn't give us these first instructions about keeping our love within our marriage because He is a controlling God and doesn't want us to have pleasure and fun. It's entirely the opposite!

He wants SO much more for us in our marital love! He created this passion-intimate intoxicating type of love that's shared between a husband and wife. It is GOOD and healthy and right!

He is blessing my and Joels love when His Word says "may your fountain be blessed, may we ever be intoxicated with our love!"

:)

Just makes me wanna go have some love!!

FREE!!!

2011-02-02T12:20:00.000-08:00

I've almost felt like a prisoner in my own home. Bounded to this life. I'm privileged to be living this lifestyle, married, stay at home mom, of four kids, and educating each of them. This is a major sacrificial position.I'd have it no other way, but at times, its hard.

Not like that's enough- having a in depth role in our church body...and involved in many other activites....aaaaaghhhhh!!!

I've had to give up so much...to be selfless. And sometimes it's too hard. Letting go of my gym membership was the hardest. Getting to work out really filled me.

So, of course, I feel as if I'm enslaved here in this Life. And recently, the thought of caparison has been heavy. Of moms who have their children in private education and get to spend alot of time at the gym. They get a lot of alone time and look great! Comparison has only binded me tighter into a depression. Its like my eyes get scales on them, and my brain gets foggy.

Yet,I persevere and pray and seek the One who has come to set all free.

Then I see an opportunity to exercise in my favorite class with my favorite instructor at a local church. Donation only, as its sort of a ministry. And boy was I ministered to!!

Not only did I get filled. But I got free. The Lord has been working to loose me. And the last song of the night was "Shackles (Praise You)" I exercised, and I cried.

Here are the lyrics.

Whoo!
It sure is hot out here
Ya know?
I don't mind thought
Just glad to be free
Know what I'm saying, uh!

Take the shackles off my feet so I can dance
I just wanna praise you
(What'cha wanna do?)
I just wanna praise you
(Yeah, yeah)
You broke the chains now I can lift my hands
(Uh feel me?)
And I'm gonna praise you
(What'cha gon do?)
I'm gonna praise you

In the corners of mind
I just can't seem to find a reason to believe
That I can break free
Cause you see I have been down for so long
Feel like the hope is gone
But as I lift my hands, I understand
That I should praise you through my circumstance

Take the shackles off my feet so I can dance
I just wanna praise you
I just wanna praise you
You broke the chains now I can lift my hands
And I'm gonna praise you
I'm gonna praise you

Everything that could go wrong
All went wrong at one time
So much pressure fell on me
I thought I was gon lose my mind
But I know you wanna see
If I will hold on through these trials
But I need you to lift this load
Cause I can't take it anymore

Take the shackles off my feet so I can dance
I just wanna praise you
I just wanna praise you
You broke the chains now I can lift my hands
And I'm gonna praise you
I'm gonna praise you

Been through the fire and the rain
Bound in every kind of way
But God has broken every chain
So let me go right now

Take the shackles off my feet so I can dance
I just wanna praise you
I just wanna praise you
You broke the chains now I can lift my hands
And I'm gonna praise you
I'm gonna praise you
[repeat x3]

Take them off
What'cha gonna do, yeah

Take the shackles off my feet so I can dance
I just wanna praise you
I just wanna praise you
You broke the chains now I can lift my hands
And I'm gonna praise you
I'm gonna praise you

Too long....

2010-07-04T05:21:00.000-07:00

It has been too long since I have had the time and capacity to sit down and write. I thoroughly enjoy writing. Im not super fancy at it, and I dont have alot of big words, but I like to express the things on my heart.

Maybe soon I can take the time to sit and write out the latest things that have impressed me lately...

The FAVOR of the Lord!

2010-01-23T10:08:00.000-08:00

I extremely dislike favoritism!! I will CHOOSE the benefits of being in the favor of the LORD and nothing else will matter!!

Those benefits listed:
* Our petitions are more likely to be granted (Esther 7:3).
* God will compass us with a shield (Psalm 5:12).
* We will receive life (Psalm 30:5).
* Our enemies will not triumph over us (Psalm 41:11).
* God will show mercy (Psalm 119:58).

Very recently, I was struggling with this topic. I like things to be FAIR. It bothers me that myself, and certain people dear to me weren't getting treated fairly. I made a choice to rely on and trust my Heavenly Father that He will provide and give favor.

Instantly, there were other means of favor that obviously came from the Father. He brought people, He brought peace, He provided means, He gave clarity, and poured out lot's of encouragement.

I'm in awe of His works!

Vision

2010-01-06T13:05:00.000-08:00

Here we are. January 2010. A brand new year.

Did you know January is named after the god Janus from the Roman times? Janus has two faces, and can see both the future and past. Interesting isn't it?

I think it's a wise to take time in January to look back over the last year and to look forward to a new year.

Im not one to set big resolutions, because I usually never follow through with them. But I do try to be intentional by looking ahead and setting goals for me and my family for the year. Proverbs 21:5 says "The plans of the diligent lead surely to advantage, but to everyone who is hasty comes surely to poverty". I know I want the advantage for my family!

So we take time praying, thinking, talking and casting vision for our family. As we were in the middle of thinking ahead. I was at a Christmas party and found this on a white board.
It read "Vision without strategy is only a fantasy."

I will tell you, it offended me to think that it would only be a Fantasy to have a healthy marriage, or be debt free, or rear up my children right. So I went home and implemented some strategies for these goals.

So, if you havent looked ahead or even reflected on the past, take the time to do so. Think of the things or areas in your life you want to advance.

-Spiritually (Personal, devotional life, disciplines, etc.)
-Mentally (Books, health, mind sets, etc.)
-Family (Time and focus, etc.)
-Financially (Budgeting, giving, working, etc )
-Relationships (Discipleship, evangelism, friendships, etc.)
-Physically (Evercise, eating, sleeping,etc.)

One big goal we have set for our family and implemented strategies for- is to be DEBT FREE. We have hope and vision. If we follow through with our plan- we can do this!

HAPPY 2010!
May it be a year of abundant blessings for you!

Titus 3:1-7

2009-12-13T05:38:00.000-08:00

"For I dare not stand on my righteousness", is a quote a friend of mine used as her status update on Facebook recently, and it has intrigued me ever since.

Lately, I've been scrutinized a bit about my walk with Jesus. How my decisions, convictions, and actions have made me appear to be better than everyone. Obviously this person doesn't know me well. It still pains me though, because thats not the kind of impression I want to make.

But after searching my heart and alot of time with the Lord, I've settled that no matter how it may appear, I choose to do what I believe is good... I have subjected myself to my God, those who have authority over me. I have chosen to be obedient, and not to slander anyone, to be peaceable and considerate, and to show true humility toward everyone.

Who knows how this may convey to others. Especially the people who have known me before I've grown to know the Lord. Because after all, I have been known to live out of the flesh.

At one time I too were foolish, disobedient, deceived and enslaved by all kinds of passions and pleasures. I lived in evil and envy, being hated and hating others.

But I have to proclaim that when the kindness and love of God our Savior appeared in me, He saved me, not because of righteous things I've done, but because of His mercy.

He saved me through the washing of rebirth and renewal by the Holy Spirit, whom He poured out on me generously through Jesus, so that, having been justified by His grace, I might become an heir-- having the hope of eternal life.

Have you ever heard of the song by Brandon Heath called "I'm Not Who I Was"? Some of my favorite lyrics are copied below.

Well the thing I find most amazing
In amazing grace
Is the chance to give it out
Maybe that's what love is all about

I wish you could see me now
I wish I could show you how
I'm not who I was

These words string a cord in me because so badly I want to tell people of my past and those who think they know who I am-- that Im not who I was. I have been made anew!

Despite what others may determine....I know in my heart that Im truly free from any condemning charges against me. I have been redeemed and forgiven. Doesn't mean Im perfect..but any righteousness anyone may see in me is a reflection of Him.

Bottom line- I have resolved to stand firm in my faith and put all my confidence in Him.

Just sayin'

2009-12-03T18:35:00.000-08:00

Just wanted to share a new motto Im trying to live by.

"Say what you mean,
mean what you say,
and don't be mean when you say it!"

You would think this wouldn't be such a hard thing for me, but it IS!

And by the grace of God I will master how I use my words!!

Dont leave out thankfulness!

2009-11-24T20:12:00.000-08:00

"Thanksgiving Day is a jewel, to set in the hearts of honest men; but be careful that you do not take the day, and leave out the gratitude."

~E.P. Powell

Worth a read.

2009-09-01T14:17:00.000-07:00

We read this from a book called Financial Peace by Dave Ramsey. I will blog more about our journey in Financial Peace University in later posts. Great things must be shared!

I am your constant companion,
I am your greatest helper or your heaviest burden.
I will push you onward or drag you down to failure.
I am at your command.
Half of the tasks that you do you might just as well
turn over to me and I will do them quickly and correctly.

I am easily managed,
you must merely be firm with me.
Show me exactly how you want something done;
after a few lessons I will do it automatically.
I am the servant of all great people and
alas of all failures as well.
Those who are great I have made great,
those who are failures I have made failures.

I am not a machine, but I work with all the precision
of a machine, plus the intelligence of a person.
Now you may run me for profit or
you may run me for ruin.
It makes no difference to me.
Take me, train me, be firm with me,
and I will lay the world at your feet.
Be easy with me and I will destroy you.

Who am I? Im called Habit.

HEALED!

2009-08-23T15:16:00.000-07:00

Something BIG happened to me recently, and I thought Id testify to all of Gods power and goodness!

Its been about three weeks I have been suffering severe pain. Bottom line is I have bad teeth. Terrible teeth! Like- I have some places where only my roots are taking up space in my gums. This has resulted in some nerve problems in my face. Im not a dentist, but this is what I conluded: Your teeth roots are basically branches off of a larger branch of nerves in your face. Each side of your face has its own nerves. For some reason, due to certain circumstances, my facial nerves would get set off. And I would have intense pain in my left eye, left ear, left jaw, and even in my left nostril. It was a sharp pain that almost felt like warm electricity. Talk about horrific! I would end up with massive headaches due to all the madness in my face.

With heat compressions, and lots of drugs, I was able to cope with the pain. I knew what types of foods would make it hurt worse..and avoided them. At night, it was worse when I laid down, so I took some heavy medication to be able to sleep.

Why dont I just go to a dentist you ask? Well, I cant afford it. My teeth are very very very very bad. I have been and have started on a restoration plan with a great dentist, but Im at a standstill until I can bring in more finances. There is really nothing they can do for my mouth, except the big overhaul.

Anyway, I have just dealt with the pain. And seriously went weeks eating medicine like candy. In the midst of pain, I have been able to worship, and seek God on a new level. I embedded a song I have litsened to alot. The words are included. It just gave me great peace knowing God is in control. He knows my needs and circumstances.

Yesterday at a gathering at ACC for Lifegroup leaders and ACC staff, there was a session on healing. The teacher talked about God's healing power. Then he had the congregation wait on the Lord and see if God might want to heal anyone. Everyone was quiet for a little bit, and then the teacher asked if anyone had heard anything. A few people heard a few things, and one lady stood up and said " I felt like somebody has had sharp shooting pain in their jaw and face associated with a tooth ache." I was not there, but Joel stood up and mentioned my situation. They all took sometime to pray for me.

At that time, I was at home. I had just made the kids some ice cream- a huge set off for the nerves in my face! But I made me a bowl anyway. After we all enjoyed a bowl and I cleaned up, I realized- MY FACE DOESNT HURT?? So, I just thanked the Lord and went on. Later Joel came home and explained what had happened.

I was SO SO SO overhwhelmed by Gods goodness and by His power, and by His willingness to heal me..and rid me of this pain.

Psalm 16:11 You have made known to me the path of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand.

Our God is an amazing God. He cares for His people, and His healing power is available to all by faith!

I LOVE MY CHURCH!!

2009-08-19T12:00:00.000-07:00

We just celebrated our TEN year anniversary. Boy it was alot of work for my hubby and others to get set up, but sure was worth it! So thankful we have such an amazing church family!!

Pride and Humility

2009-07-18T05:37:00.000-07:00

God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.

A study this morning on humility was just what I needed. Believe me, I have my moments of pride, but I try to stay in a humble attitude and think of others above myself. So this is not a Tressa is perfect and judging others post. This is a Tressa had a revelation on this subject post.

Lately, I have become so disgusted by the pride and arrogance of others. I just wanted to gag yesterday as I sat and litsened to someone build themselves up the entire time we were together. Note: I had to pray hard beforehand, because I knew I would be around this person. I didnt want to join in with all the elavating, but I want to celebrate this person in their accomplishments, but where do you draw the line?

Then this morning I came across James 4.

¹What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you? ²You want something but don't get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God. ³When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.

⁴You adulterous people, don't you know that friendship with the world is hatred toward God? Anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God. ⁵Or do you think Scripture says without reason that the spirit he caused to live in us envies intensely? ⁶But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: "God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble."

Let me highlight a few things here:
~Pride makes its own agenda without any consideration of God and others.
~What is gained through pride is always lost.
~God opposes those filled with the pride of life for they are the friends of the devil.
~It is pride that makes us lust and covet and envy and murder and fight and war. Pride is to the life of the flesh what humility is to the life of the Spirit. It is at the very foundation of the lifestyle, which displeases God.
~Pride brings destruction.

Humility starts with the decision about who is in charge of our lives. GOD! God's enabling power is available to those who truly submit themselves to him. He gives GRACE and covering to those who call on Him and give Him glory.

My revelation is that God's power will be discovered in the lives of the proud, but it will only lead to their destruction. I can rest in knowing that God sees the heart of man, and He is the Judge. I can also have pity on the proud. Because after all big egos are like big shields for lots of empty space. The proud are absorbed in the endless struggle to think well of themselves for one reason or another.

I must remain humble, even when I want to join in (in times like yesterday) and point out all of my successes and accomplishments. I submitted myself and prayed before my time with this person, He gave me the ability to stay low. I saw pride for what it was and I even left our time together feeling renewed. God's power for living life well is given to those who humble themselves in His sight.

LOVE- the most important ingredient

2009-07-08T11:35:00.000-07:00

Today, I was called a "Betty Crocker" by a friend, she mentioned I was maybe even better than Betty. TO be honest, I love to cook- and what I cook might taste good, but it doesnt always look magazine perfect. Im not good at drawing lines, or making perfect cuts and such.

I shared the story with my friend about the two little girls staying with us. Today I decided we would make homemade pizzas. One girl gapsed, "you can make a pizza?" So we got out the premade crusts, the sauce, grated the cheese, and cooked the grease out of the pepperonis. We then sat and everyone had a job to putting the pizza together. (spreading the sauce, sprinkling the cheese, putting on the pepperonis) Once the pizza was put together, I infromed them that we saved the most important ingredient to put on for last----love. I made everyone sprinkle their love over the two pizzas.

We cooked the pizzas, let them cool, cut them up and served them on everyones plates. At the table while we were eating, one of the sweet girls said "This pizza is the best, its because of all the love we put in it!" At that moment, I realized, we are better cooks than Betty Crocker- because we cook with love.

INDIA

2009-07-03T23:08:00.000-07:00

The Lord is breaking our hearts for India again. And man, it hurts, oh how our hearts ache!

We have been to India once. We have seen, touched, tasted, smelt, heard, slept, cried, and fully experienced that country. One of my favorite quotes from a song is "Now that I have seen, I am responsible". We really feel like we have experienced these things for a reason! And feel somewhat responsible. We just want to stand up and say "No MORE!", "Not on our watch will these people continue to suffer".

James 2:26 says "As the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without deeds is dead." We have alot of faith, and we do alot of deeds, here in Waco. But we are asking ourselves, what about in India? Who is loving those "neighbors" there?

We are in the process of processing all these feelings. We have had these heartfelt feelings for India for quite some time, but just recently couldnt hold it in any longer. We are asking the Lord- where? when? how? what?

Lord, we are litsening!!!

Lately...

2009-04-28T09:53:00.000-07:00

...one of my favorite quotes have been
"I've got nothing to prove".

And when I say that, I truly mean it.

Because, no one or no thing owns me. No one's words, actions, attitudes, or approval can adhere to who I am. No cirsumstances or situations can define me.

I am who I am because of my Father. I will let Him call on who I am. I will let Him define what I am. And because I am so solid in my identity in Him, I have nothing to prove to anyone or to anything.

Not saying Im perfect...or justifying any of my actions. Im just saying I will not let the enemy use anyone or any thing to doubt who I am in God.

One of my favorite childrens books is called "You Are Special" by Max Lucado. Click here to see it on Amazon.com.

This book about small wooden people called the Wemmicks who put golden star stickers and gray dot stickers on each other all day long. The golden star stickers go to the talented, well liked, smart, and beautiful Wemmicks. The gray dot stickers go to the chipped, scratched, and uncoordinated Wemmicks, and to those who cannot speak eloquently.

A Wemmick, named Punchinello, is one who receives gray dots all day long and is very sad about it. It is affecting his self esteem and he is believing that something is really wrong with him. He meets Lucia, a Wemmick who is beautiful and talented, but has no stars or dots. Every time someone gives her a mark, whether a star or dot, it just falls off.

When Punchinello asks Lucia about this phenomenon, she refers him to speak to Eli, the woodcarver. Eli creates all of the Wemmicks and lives on the other side of the hill. Skeptically, Punchinello goes to meet Eli, where he learns that he is loved and accepted, no matter what other's may say his faults are.

Punchinello realizes that when he spends some time with Eli, who loves him unconditionally, the dots will not stick to him, because he is special too.

My most favorite part of the book, is at the very end, when the Punchinello meets Eli (God). Read below:

"Punchinello?" The voice was deep and strong. Punchinello stopped. "Punchinello! How good to see you. Come and let me have a look at you." Punchinello turned slowly and looked at the large bearded craftsman. "You know my name?" the little Wemmick asked.

"Of course I do. I made you." Eli stooped down and picked him up and set him on the bench. "Hmm," the maker spoke thoughtfully as he inspected the gray circles. "Looks like you've been given some bad marks." "I didn't mean to, Eli. I really tried hard." "Oh, you don't have to defend yourself to me, child. I don't care what the other Wemmicks think." "You don't?"

No, and you shouldn't either. Who are they to give stars or dots?
They're Wemmicks just like you. What they think doesn't matter, Punchinello. All that matters is what I think. And I think you are pretty special."
Punchinello laughed. "Me, special? Why? I can't walk fast. I can't jump. My paint is peeling. Why do I matter to you?"

Eli looked at Punchinello, put his hands on those small wooden shoulders, and spoke very slowly. "Because you're mine. That's why you matter to me."
Punchinello had never had anyone look at him like this--much less his maker. He didn't know what to say.
"Every day I've been hoping you'd come," Eli explained.
"I came because I met someone who had no marks."
"I know. She told me about you."
"Why don't the stickers stay on her?"
"Because she has decided that what I think is more important than what they think. The stickers only stick if you let them."

"What?"
"The stickers only stick if they matter to you. The more you trust my love, the less you care about the stickers."
"I'm not sure I understand."
"You will, but it will take time. You've got a lot of marks. For now, just come to see me every day and let me remind you how much I care." Eli lifted Punchinello off the bench and set him on the ground. "Remember," Eli said as the Wemmick walked out the door. "You are special because I made you. And I don't make mistakes."

Punchinello didn't stop, but in his heart he thought, "I think he really means it."
And when he did, a dot fell to the ground.

Its hard for me to read this book without crying! What a great implication as to who we should let define us.

I've been wanting to write a post about this for a while now.

For the next few weeks, we are doing a series at our church called "Identity Theft". This series is about finding our identity in Christ!

You can hear the weekly sermons online by clicking here. Also, ACC is offering a free electronic devotional via email. Click here to sign up. Its REALLY good stuff!!!

Abiding

2009-03-13T11:54:00.000-07:00

(This is a picture of one of my journal entries. Below is typed out what was written in that entry.)

I've been reading this book called “Becoming A Woman Who Walks With God”. The first four chapters talk about abiding: The Security of Abiding; Choosing to Abide; Abiding in the Word; and Bearing Fruit.

I've been contemplative about the value of abiding or staying close to the Lord. Jesus uses the illustration in John 15 of the living vine and its branches, and that He alone is the source of abundance and growth. We are the branches, and must stay firmly connected to the Vine in order to grow and bear fruit. He invites us to stay connected to Him.

Abiding is deciding to let Christ be our Source- surrendering our lives to Him, seeking His kingdom, trusting His provision. Its the CHOICE to adhere ourselves to the Lord.

The story of Martha and Mary in Luke is brought up in chapter two. Martha was buzzing around-getting dinner ready while Jesus was in the living room with Mary at His feet. Martha got fed up with having to do all the work, and vents to Jesus for not caring about her and all her work. He lovingly responds to her by encouraging her to realize that she can lay aside all her work, and be concerned with whats best and whats eternal.

Jesus wants us to focus our lives on being with Him, rather than on busying ourselves doing for Him. He has called us to abide- to sit at His feet and listen to His words. When our first priority is abiding, we cannot help but serve the Lord and do the works of His will.

In John 8:31 Jesus tell us “If you abide in My word, then you are truly disciples of Mine.” A daily intake of the Scriptures is one of the surest ways of abiding in His Word. Just as eating is essential for strength and energy, so do our spirits need daily nourishment. Feeding our spirits is essential to our growth, strength, and ability to bear fruit.

Sometimes I feel like the fruit I bear is small, or too dry. Those are the times Im confusing myself for the vine and live in my own strength instead of depending on Him. “Your responsibility is to abide in Me and let Me abide in you.” The key to fruit bearing is to stay connected to the Vine. Apart from the Vine I can do nothing.

“Lord, I surrender myself to Your power to transform me according to Your likeness. I yield my life to bear the priceless fruit that is the product of abiding.” Amen

Consequences of Sin

2009-02-27T13:23:00.000-08:00

(This is a picture of one of my journal entries. Below is typed out what was written in that entry.)

Recently, in my sin (anger) I threw a bottle of glass cleaner and broke it. Is anyone out there surprised that I'm a sinner? :)

I really don't throw things often, but that day I was so mad- I just threw the closest thing to me which happened to be the poor bottle of glass cleaner. I put it away on the shelf after piecing it together and forgot all about it. A few days later, I got it off the shelf to use it and remembered its broken. To use it now, you have to hold the body of the bottle and the head of the bottle at the same time and somehow manage to squeeze the trigger. It will only give a trickle of spray- when it use to spray a nice V shape.

In my flesh, I decided to put “Glass Cleaner” on my grocery list, even though I still had a little less than half a bottle of it- I just wanted a NON broken bottle. At the store, I felt convicted. I felt I must continue to use my cleaner until its all gone. Regardless of the brokenness- I must suffer the consequences of my sin.

For a few days now, I have been mindful on how we must own up to our sin- confess our sin, and deal with the outcome of our sin. (1 John 1:8-10)

One of my favorite stories is “Once there was a man who had decided to jump off the top of a 25 story building to end his life. After he jumped, and was falling to the ground, he realized he made a mistake. He repented and pleaded with God for forgiveness. The Lord immediately replied with “Yes, you are forgiven..now- I will see you here in a minute.” What a perfect representation of how sin works.

When I sin, I must see the error of my ways- seek forgiveness, and be washed new, and live with whatever the aftermath. In my case- it was a broken glass cleaner bottle.

I love what the Word says in Proverbs 13:15 in the Contemporary English version. “Sound judgment is praised, but people without good sense are on the way to disaster.”

Can you think of a time in your life that sin caused some kind of outcome? What was the outcome? How did you deal with it?

"Christmas Can Be Hard On Relationships"

2008-12-07T06:44:00.000-08:00

I copied and pasted this below (in green) from an email I got from Marriage Messages- I get these once a week and they are really good- I treasure the little nuggets of truth I get everytime. I wanted to share this particular message- it was good. You can suscribe to this FREE ministry by going to their website at www.marriagemissions.com

Christmas Can Be Hard on Relationships - Marriage Message #20

Celebrating the Christmas season can be hard on relationships -- particularly marriage. That may seem like a strange statement, but it's true. You would think the opposite would be true. After-all, celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ -- "the Prince of Peace" should bring... well, PEACE!!!

"For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. Of the increase of his government and peace there will be no end..." (Isaiah 9:6-7a)

The birth of Christ is the time when God appeared in human form. As believers, we know that this is just the beginning of His "increase". After His second coming, the peace of God will be fully realized. Yet as we celebrate His birth -- the beginning of His "increase", many of us mentally leave Christ in a type of manger setting (where He isn't powerful) instead of inviting Him to increase and grow in our hearts -- to live in and through us.

A good challenge for us is something that John the Baptist said, "I must decrease, He must increase." Is that how you are living your Christian life both inside and outside of your home? How about at Christmas -- a time when we (and others) recognize and celebrate the birth of Christ? Christmas can be hard on relationships because:

--- We try to do more than we can and should.
--- We get so caught up in the actions of others that we forget to live out the principles of Christ.
--- We allow ourselves to say and do things that don't reflect the heart of Christ.
--- We want to GIVE more than our budget allows. We WANT more than budgets allow.
--- We misplace our priorities. We must never take CHRIST out of Christmas.

So how do we change this? What can we do to make this a more peaceful season which reflects the heart and light of Christ in our marriage, our home, and outside of it?

"You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven" (Matthew 5:14-16).

The following are a few tips that you might keep in mind as Christmas is being celebrated all around us and in our homes:

--- Lower your expectations of making everything so grand. "Give yourself permission to avoid perfection like the plague. Remember, Jesus was born in a stall in a barn (cave). He came into this world in a place filled with the odors of any farm. He had no tree, no lights and no Christmas buffet" (John Thurman). Don't try to do more than you can and should.

Keep in mind: if you're too busy to be kind, you're too busy. We're promised in the Bible that God will not give us more than we can handle. If you're doing more than you can and you find yourself being unkind as a result, then it shows that you're being tempted to do more than you should. Ask God to show you how you can simplify things so the "fruit of the Spirit" is lived out in your heart and actions. "The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control" (Galatians 5:22-23).

--- Husbands, wives, children, relatives, and friends can be a blessing! But they can also complicate our lives as well and push at us in ways that cause us to lose sight of what's most important. Here are a few tips from counselor John Thurman www.johnthurman.net from his article "Holiday Stress Tips" (in quotation marks) that might help you, plus some we've added:

- "Regardless of what your therapist says, the Christmas season is not about problem solving. Deal with family issues another time. (Make this a holy day.) You have to choose how you are going to feel. You don't have to be a slave to old memories. ... If you're going to be spending a lot of time with family, be intentional about building in breaks from the family. The holidays can be a very special time for families to be together, but you don't need to overdose."

- Keep yourself out of places, to the best of your ability, where victimizing conflict can occur. Many times there is safety in numbers. It's something I learned with a family member who just wasn't safe to be with alone. My brother and I made a pact to watch over each other so neither of us would be alone with this individual. It helped greatly! "Gather on neutral ground -- meet at a place that belongs to no one. Include everyone that you can, and avoid posturing and fighting." "If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone" (Romans 12:18).

- Also, if you can't avoid certain in-laws and/or other family members, and getting together with them is a reality in your life, look for ways you can be a blessing and bring the light of Christ to shine through in the darkness. Do all "as unto the Lord." Through this you are participating in His sufferings. You are also participating in God's Kingdom work. "Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will now grow weary and lose heart" (Hebrews 12:2-3).

--- Don't allow yourself to be dragged into or to stoop to the level of being sinful in how you interact with others. "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you" (Ephesians 4:29-32). "Let us make every effort to do what leads to peace and mutual edification" (Romans 14:19).

--- Being a giver can be a wonderful blessing. "It is better to give than to receive." But keep in mind that sometimes unwise generosity can cause added problems later. It is better to give less and not break your budget, than to give more and put your family into depressive debt. Sometimes giving and accepting gifts that cost less, but are given in love are greater than gifts given where the price tag eventually becomes burdensome.

---"So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. Do not cause anyone to stumble, whether Jews, Greeks or the church of God -- even as I try to please everybody in every way. For I am not seeking my own good but the good of many, so that they may be saved. Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ" (1 Corinthians 10:31-33).

We pray you will poke holes in the darkness and draw together with your spouse to glorify God,
Cindy and Steve Wright

Half Empty/Half Full

2008-11-25T10:53:00.000-08:00

Is this cup half empty or half full?

Lately, I've been contemplative about what its like to fully have a THANKFUL heart.

I've drawn a conclusion that when I have a pessimistic outlook on any type of situation in life (the glass is half empty)- I tend to be more ungrateful. And when I have a optimistic outlook on any type of situation in life(the glass is half full)- I tend to be more thankful.

Half Empty- PESSIMISTIC:
I think about the times I look at my life "half empty". I can focus on the things I dont have, or the things that aren't complete, or aren't perfect, or aren't entirely fixed, or not organized. I also think of the bad things- my kids are misbehaving, my husband is not perfect, my friends never call, or even I can go as far as focusing on mistakes, or bad relationships, or past hurts, or missed opportunities. THEN I really can start to feel discontent. I get all torn up into millions of pieces of pitifulness and unhappiness. This is not good. I hate finding myself in this attitude.

Half Full-OPTIMISTIC:
And then I think about the times I look at my life "half full". I can medititate on the things I do have, and the things that are complete, and working. I also think of the good things- my kids do love and care for eachother, my husband is so genuine and loving, my friends really do care for me. I can trail off to meditate on the accomplishments, and tribulations, healing relationships, and opportunities that I've had. THEN I really can start to feel content. I get built up in joy and gratefulness. This is a great place to be.

God's Word gives us intruction as to how to view life, Phillipians 4:8 says: "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things." I guess God knew that thinking of these mentioned things are better for our minds than the other things we can fill our minds with.

I've heard it once said like this "An undisclipined mind is like a battle field, the enemy can attack from every dircetion. A disclipined mind is like a mighty fortress, nothing can enter into it"

I want to challenge you all, to use Phillipians 4:8 as a filter, to purify the things of your mind. I promise, its a great path to having a THANKFUL heart.

TAGGED!!

2008-11-17T09:42:00.000-08:00

So, I've been tagged by my pal (that I miss greatly) Ashley.

I am to post 7 weird or random facts about myself. Here goes!

1. I really don't need alot of sleep, I can get an average of about 6 hours asleep at night and be fine. Works out perfect as a mom of four!!
2. I use to live in a children's home called the Methodist Home. An experience I will never forget. Maybe I will blog about it someday.
3. I really wish I lived back in the 1800's. For some reason I just desire that life- the dress, the daily life, the simplicity.
4. If you gave me to opportunity to swim in a pool of chocolate or ranch, I'd choose ranch for sure.
5. I have four tattoos: one little ladybug, two butterflies, and one clover. I use to have my tongue and belly pierced- but those can get taken out- the tattoos stay forever.
6. I married my sweet hubby when I turned 18. We have been married 11 years now, that makes me how old? And yes, our oldest is almost 10. We started out life young- and started a family early. (But wouldn't take it back for anything!)
7.I do not have one full-blooded sibling. I have four half brothers, and three half sisters. I was raised with my two of my half brothers. I've never met in person the others- only over phone and internet.

Now, I must tag 7 people. I tag Kathy, Becca, Steph, Annabeth, Angela, Becky, and Charity.

CHRISTmas!!!!

2008-11-15T19:03:00.000-08:00

OK...so I am gonna rant here for a minute. I got home today and unloaded my groceries and realized all the grocery bags that carried my groceries had "Have a Jolly Holiday" decorated all over the bag. What happened to "Merry Christmas"?!?

This bothers me.

SO much so- that Im thinking about not shopping there for the Christmas holidays.

Then I heard over my local radio station that the Focus on the Family sent certified letters to the CEOs and marketing executives of 33 leading retailers inviting them to share their plans to generously use the term ”Christmas” in their 2008 catalogs and Web publications. They also requested information about their policies regarding in-store use of the term “Merry Christmas.”

In exchange for an early commitment to use the term “Christmas,” Focus on the Family offered to share the decision's with the world early in the shopping season.

Eight of the 33 retailers replied with enthusiasm and stated their plans to generously use the term “Christmas.” In fact, a number of them intend to increase their use of “Christmas” this year.

The eight that plan to intentionally recognize Christmas are:
Best Buy
Cabela's
Kohl's
Lowe's
Nordstrom
Pier 1 Imports
Toys "R" Us
Wal-Mart

Focus on the Family qoutes "We trust these industry leaders will make good on their promise and publish “Christmas-friendly” material as they roll out their catalogs and Web sites. As you observe their “Christmas-friendly” approach, please thank them and patronize their stores."

GAP, Banana Republic and Old Navy were also kind enough to send a reply but did not convey a clear commitment to use the term “Christmas.” Rather, they communicated their intent to approach their marketing in broad and diverse terms.

They have not received a reply from the following retailers:
American Eagle
Barnes & Noble
Bed, Bath & Beyond
Bloomingdale's
Borders
Circuit City
Crate&Barrel
Dick's Sporting Goods
Dillard's
Eddie Bauer
The Home Depot
JCPenney
KB Toys
Kmart
Lane Bryant
Lands' End
Linens 'n Things
L.L. Bean
Macy's
Neiman Marcus
Sears
Target

After they review the publications for all 33 retailers, they will publish their ratings. Watch for the complete list and more details on CitizenLink.com.

TAKE ACTION
Since their staff can’t possibly monitor what’s happening in local stores across the country, please let them know what you notice as you visit these 33 retailers. They encourage the utmost respect and kindness, of course, should you offer any feedback to your local stores. You can e-mail them your observations.

As you observe the “Christmas-friendly” approach of these eight retailers, please thank them and patronize their stores.

Best Buy (612) 291-1000
Cabela’s
Kohl’s (262) 703-7000
Lowe's
Nordstrom (206) 303-6000
Pier 1 Imports (817) 252-8000
Toys "R" Us (973) 617-4040
Wal-Mart

Lose My Soul

2008-10-09T19:26:00.001-07:00

I was in the car today, without kids (rare), and this song came over the radio. I turned up the volume to my Honda Odyssey van speakers and I was jamming!

But when I started to hear the lyrics, my heart started to soften..the song was so revealing I started to cry. Its a song by Toby Mac called "Lose My Soul" featuring Kirk Franklin and Mandisa.

You can hear it here:
Lose My Soul feat. Kirk Franklin & Mandisa / Afterparty (Portable Sounds Album Version)

Take a look at the lyrics:

Man I wanna tell you all something, Man.
Man I'm not gonna let these material thing's, get in my way, you all.
I'm trying to get somewhere.
I'm trying to get somewhere,
Thats real and pure and true and eternal.

Father God, I am clay in your hands,
Help me to stay that way through all life's demands,
'Cause they chip and they nag and they pull at me,
And every little thing I make up my mind to be,
Like I'm gonna be a daddy whose in the mix,
And I'm gonna be a husband who stays legit,
And I pray that I'm an artist who rises above,
The road that is wide and filled with self love,
Everything that I see draws me,
Though it's only in You that I can truly see that its a feast for the eyes- a low blow to purpose.
And I'm a little kid at a three ring circus.

I don't want to gain the whole world, and lose my soul,
Don't wanna walk away, let me hear the people say.
I don't want to gain the whole world, and lose my soul,
Don't wanna walk away, let me hear the people say.

(Mr. Franklin, Step up to the mic sir)

The paparazzi flashes, and that they think that it's you,
But they don't know that who you are is not what you do,
True, we get it twisted when we peak at the charts,
Yo before we part from the start,
Where's your heart?
You a pimp, hustler?
Tell me what's your title,
America has no more stars, now we call them idols,
You sit idle, While we teach prosperity,
The first thing to prosper should be inside of me.
We're free...
Not because of 22's on the range,
But Christ came in range, we said yes now we changed,
Not the same, even though I made a fall,
Since I got that call, no more Saul, now I'm Paul.
(YEP!)

I don't want to gain the whole world, and lose my soul,
Don't wanna walk away, let me hear the people say.
I don't want to gain the whole world, and lose my soul,
Don't wanna walk away, let me hear the people say.
Don't wanna walk away,
Don't wanna walk away

How do I sense the tide that's rising?
De-sensitizing me from living in light of eternity,
How do I sense the tide that's rising?
It's hypnotizing me from living in light of eternity,
How do I sense the tide that's rising?
De-sensitizing me from living in light of eternity.

(Lord what we gonna do,We're relying on you,
all eyes are on you Lord,
all eyes are on you, all eyes are on you Jesus.)

I don't want to gain the whole world, and lose my soul,
Don't wanna walk away, let me hear the people say.
(Don't let me lose my soul, my soul.)
I don't want to gain the whole world, and lose my soul,
(This is my honesty, Father, won't you cover me.)
I don't want to gain the whole world, and lose my soul,
(Don't wanna walk away, and all those people say)
I don't want to gain the whole world, and lose my soul,
(Don't wanna lose, I don't wanna lose my soul.)

Lord forgive us when we get consumed by the things of this world,
That fight for our love, and our passion,
As our eyes are open wide and on you.
Grant us the privilege of your world view,
And may your kingdom be, what wakes us up, and lays us down.

(Hallelujah, Don't wanna lose our soul,
No, Don't wanna lose my soul.)

Hey excuse me,
I'm looking for the after party,
Toby,
Ha ha, yeah, last door on the left, you'll hear it.
Thanks,
No problem.

Don't let me lose my soul, I never wanna walk away,
I don't wanna lose my soul,
No, no, no.
Don't let me, don't let me, lose my soul,
I don't wanna walk away,
Don't let me walk away,
Na na na na no,
Don't let me lose, my soul,
I'm never gonna walk away.

OVERCOMING

2008-09-24T21:09:00.000-07:00

Does anyone else out there have any fears? Any anxieties? Any GIANT problems that seem too big? I often thought "Am I the only one here struggling with this fear?"

Well- there is good news for those trying to overcome a fear--victory can be had. God's perspective is eternal- and by His power, we can "do all things." "For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love, and of self-discipline." 2 Timothy 1:7

I am personally sharing with the world that I finally took action and have been spending some time at the dentist office. (after many years of pain, fear, anxiety, discomfort, and shame)

This entire process has been so hard, but I felt like the Lord told me "It was time" and He literally opened doors for me to be able to overcome this GIANT that has kept me in hiding for so long!! This has been my "skeleton in the closet" for some time now.

I took baby steps, with lots of urging (accountability) from family and close friends I called for an appointment to just a sit down and talk with a dentist. I felt a little more comfortable so I came back for a exam. After they looked over the results of the exam we met back for a consultation and laid out a dental restoration plan.

I am so excited that I'm on my way to a healthier mouth! I cannot begin to list out all the emotions Ive been through just by taking this big leap! My perspective on dentistry has definitely changed.

My dentist is a nice woman who genuinely cares about my dental health. You all know my love for ladybugs? Well, since the office is of women staff only- they call each other Ladybugs- when I found that little fact out- I knew I was in the right place!

I am covered by a great dental plan at my hubby's work. I took on a 12 hour a week job this year to specifically pay for fees that insurance doesn't cover.. (I call my income- "teeth money".) I have to admit though, even with the insurance, Im still gonna have to pay out a bunch of money, but this is just another tool this GIANT has on me. I know the Lord has brought me here, and I know He will continue to help me conquer.

I will inform you all as things progress, I have a cleaning mid October, and my first restorative (3 1/2 hours long) appointment in November.

But as for you and your fears, anxiety, and/or GIANTS...Ask the Lord to give you power- and with that- take the baby steps that will walk you to VICTORY! I promise you will be able to see the situation more clearly from God's vantage point!

Read more about David and how he conquered his fears and a GIANT in the book of 1 Samuel 17 of the Bible.
A point to ponder about this story is that David's faith in God caused him to look at the giant from a different perspective. Goliath was merely a mortal man defying an all-powerful God. David looked at the battle from God's point of view. If we look at giant problems and impossible situations from God's perspective, we realize that God will fight for us and with us. When we put things in proper perspective, we see more clearly and we can fight more effectively.

DISCIPLINE---ouch it hurts!!

2008-09-11T21:10:00.000-07:00

dis·ci·pline noun, verb

Training expected to produce a specific character or pattern of behavior, especially training that produces moral or mental improvement.
Controlled behavior resulting from disciplinary training; self-control.
1. Control obtained by enforcing compliance or order.
2. A systematic method to obtain obedience
3. A state of order based on submission to rules and authority
Punishment intended to correct or train.
A branch of knowledge or teaching.

Recently, when Big D at the tender age of 3 gets a "correction" (spanking, time out, toy in time out) he gets upset and says either "Be NICE Mommy!" or "You hurt me!". (Perfectly innocent replies to that painful feeling of discipline.) We have actually started using the word "discipline", to help him learn that if he does not obey our rules, he will get "Disclipine". At times, it seems so hard for him to want to conform to our rules, he'd rather take the punishment- then give up the desire for wanting to do things his way.

Ive thought alot about his response lately paired up with my life. How I do NOT like discipline either:
~I haven't been running lately because its sooo painful to get up so early and run! (been going to bed late too)
~I dont like doing the dishes and cleaning up right after dinner because I "just wanna relax" for a minute- which turns into an all night relaxation until Im forced to clean up dinner the next morning so we can have breakfast!
~I hate dealing with our budget system, its too time consuming. But if I dont keep account- we wont have much savings and even might have to use our pricey overdraft protection!
~I'd rather be on Facebook than being diligent with my daily chores. Its nice to be able to just sit while the boys are napping and do nothing!

I sure do have lots of great excuses to NOT be disciplined dont I? But what happens when Im not? I suffer the consequences of low energy, weight gain, crazy hectic mornings, financial crunch, time wasted- low productivity- all things not so lovely...

Having no self-control and not submitting to a discipline life only results into pain and suffering. One qoute a friend recently shared with me was from Joyce Meyer. "We must all suffer one of two things - the pain of discipline or the pain of regret & disappointment. The price of excellence is discipline. The cost of mediocrity is disappointment."

SO I find myself at a point where I have to make a choice to lead a disclipined lifestyle. Id much rather suffer the pain of discipline than the disappointment of all the consequences.

What about you?

A love song....

2008-08-25T17:52:00.000-07:00

Im loving all of Brooke Frasers songs lately. But this happens to be one of my most latest favorite songs. (Came out in 2004- it took me this long to find it!) The name of this song is Arithmetic.
You know...I dont know for sure, but I think this was a love song written to God. Now, there are some words in the song that throw me off to think that its not written to God. But the more I litsen to the lyrics, I find out it doesnt matter, its a song I can sing to the Lord and mean it. But really, I think its a love song to our God. So beautiful and the lyrics are amazing....I have included them at the bottom of this post.
Let me know your thoughts.

I've been staring at the sky tonight
Marvelling and passing time
Wondering what to do with daylight
Until I can make you mine
You are the one I want, you are the one I want

I've been thinking of changing my mind
It never stays the same for long
But of all the things I know for sure
You're the only certain one
You are the one I want, you are the one I want

I've been counting up all my wrongs
One sorry for each star
See I'd apologise my way to you
If the heavens stretched that far
You are the one I want, you are the one I want

[Chorus]
I won't find what I am looking for
If I only "see" by keeping score
'Cos I know now you are so much more than arithmetic

'Cos if I add, if I subtract
If I give it all, try to take some back
I've forgotten the freedom that comes from the fact
That you are the sum
So you are the one
I want

When the years are showing on my face
And my strongest days are gone
When my heart and flesh depart this place
From a life that sung your song

You'll still be the one I want

You'll still be the one I want

You'll still be the one I want

You'll still be the one I want

Brooke Fraser in Concert!!

2008-08-07T18:12:00.000-07:00

Last night I went to a Brooke Fraser concert at the House Of Blues in Dallas with some girlfriends. I had such a great time! How often do you get to go out kid free and enjoy great music??

Brooke Fraser is an amazing woman with much faith in our Lord. Her lyrics to her songs are powerful. Below are links to some of her songs.

One is very powerful- our church even sings it- its called "Hosanna"- she sings it with Hillsong. She wrote the lyrics though.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wr_Oqun3CWo

Another song called Albertine, she wrote for a child she met in Rwanda. She basically says "Now that I have seen, I am responsible, faith without deeds is dead" Pretty good! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WGx-xU6TnU8&feature=related

Another of my favorites is Hosea's Wife...which if you know the story of Hosea, he was called to be faithful to an unfaithful woman to repsresent Gods unfailing love. This is a video of her in concert.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v007w5ycsUI&feature=related

Hope you enjoy!

Heartbroken......

2008-07-15T16:49:00.000-07:00

Ive been following a blog by a woman that has truly inspired me. This woman named Licia works endlessly in a Rescue Center in Haiti that houses around 60 children that are sick and suffering from severe forms of malnutrition.

Today, a sweet little girl named Chabina died. She came in the center several days ago at 6 months old weighing only 10 pounds. She gradually got sicker and died.

So Licia posted on her site today the sad news of Chabina's death. Although she doesnt understand, in her agony she chooses to profess that God is good. She qoutes Psalm 28:6-86.

6 Praise be to the LORD,
for he has heard my cry for mercy.

7 The LORD is my strength and my shield;
my heart trusts in him, and I am helped.
My heart leaps for joy
and I will give thanks to him in song.

8 The LORD is the strength of his people,
a fortress of salvation for his anointed one

I cant stop thinking about how much faith this woman has. And also how much this lady gives. Even though she is in such agony- she must continue on.

I am reminded of James 2: 14-26. It talks about faith and deeds.

14What good is it, my brothers, if a man claims to have faith but has no deeds? Can such faith save him? 15Suppose a brother or sister is without clothes and daily food. 16If one of you says to him, "Go, I wish you well; keep warm and well fed," but does nothing about his physical needs, what good is it? 17In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead.

18But someone will say, "You have faith; I have deeds."
Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by what I do.

19You believe that there is one God. Good! Even the demons believe that—and shudder.

20You foolish man, do you want evidence that faith without deeds is useless 21Was not our ancestor Abraham considered righteous for what he did when he offered his son Isaac on the altar? 22You see that his faith and his actions were working together, and his faith was made complete by what he did. 23And the scripture was fulfilled that says, "Abraham believed God, and it was credited to him as righteousness, and he was called God's friend. 24You see that a person is justified by what he does and not by faith alone.

25In the same way, was not even Rahab the prostitute considered righteous for what she did when she gave lodging to the spies and sent them off in a different direction? 26As the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without deeds is dead.

May we all be inspired by Licia and just like her, put our faith into action.

Licia's website is http://haitirescuecenter.wordpress.com/ Please stop by her site and encourage her.

Also, Kayla and Emily will be doing a Fundraiser soon to benefit this rescue center. Stop by soon to read more about it.

A good laugh!

2008-07-11T21:40:00.001-07:00

Did you know Noah had a blog? As in Noah And The Ark? YUP! Noah has a blog and its hilarious! Check it out here.

Counting my blessings!!

2008-06-20T03:01:00.000-07:00

As it is, today is my birthday. I woke this morning at 3:30 am. A beautiful thunderstorm was coming in and I could hear the wind, thunder, and rain. I couldnt go back to sleep. So I took my time showering and then had a sweet quiet time.

My mind kept thinking about how amazing last night was, my children are off with their Papa and Granny for the night, and Joel and I had a great time together on a date to my favorite steak house- Logans. Then I was given a few gifts- one being a new camera and another being a footrub! Plus I was in bed by 10!! I kept thinking this morning of how truly blessed I am.

In the Bible, 1 Th. 5:16-18 Paul says, "Rejoice always; pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus ."

So I thought I would take time this morning to count my blessings and thank the Lord for giving me a great life, and blessing me so much.

First off, Im so grateful for the God I serve, who isnt distant, who has delivered me from myself and the clutches of satan. He has given me a new hope and a bright future.

Im healthy! To which I am so thankful. I have no diseases or sicknesses. Sure I have an imprefect body- but I am thankful that my body can do the things it can do.

Im blessed to have such an incredible family:
~My dad and mom and my father and mother in law love me dearly and are always supportive, caring, helping, and thoughtful towards me, my husband and children.
~Not to mention the siblings I have- who have also given me great sister in laws! My husband also has given me more sisters and brothers too- all whom I adore! And with that I have so many special neices and nephews. I love being an Aunt.
~I also have awesome grandparents from both mine and my husbands family- who have taught me so much about life. I have awesome Aunts and Uncles, cousins- all who have impacted my life.

Im so incredibly appreciative and indebted for my dear husband- Christopher Joel. I know he loves me and our children so much, and is such an amazing provider! (not just financially). I couldnt have gotten a better father for my children. Thank you God for given me a patient, loving, hard working husband and partner in life. Im not sure what I would do with out him.

Im so honored to have four beautiful children. Two girls who are so bright and beautiful, helpful, caring-giving, and are such precious jewels that I hold close to my heart! Two boys who are so full of life and have given me a new perspective on life, they both complete our family.

Im truly fortunate for my life experiences. I would not be who I am without each and everthing that has happened in my life. All the good and the bad (sufferings, adventures, trials, special moments, training). With God help, I have used all these experiences to change and mold me. I am wiser!

Thank you God for our jobs! Im so thankful that Joel has a wonderful job at our church, which provides above and beyond. Im able to work at home as a full time mom, and still able to write curriculum- and my passion!!

Im so grateful to have so many friends. God has put people in my path that I will treasure forever. I have friendships that has withheld many years, friendships that are newer, friends from long ago, friends that are close, dear friends that are faithful and thoughtful. A few metionables- and clearly I couldnt mention them all. Megan, a friend Ive known since elementary school. We have been friends through all of our stages and phases. I really lover her like a sister. (Lylas!) Stephanie- a dear friend who almost knows more about me than my hubby! Im not sure what I'd do without her! A newest friendship I have enjoyed is Becky! Im so glad our paths have crossed and I hope we stay connected forever!!

Im sincerely thankful for all the things the Lord has given us. Our home sweet home, my cool van, all our furniture, my ladybug kitchen and red kitchen appliances! A nice washing machine and dryer! A Wii, nice clothes and cute shoes, a new tent, a great backyard and enjoyable items in it.

And lastly but not leastly, Im blessed that God gives us a Bible which brings life, a church with so much life in it, and for other things like sex, sunrises and sunsets, ladybugs, music, a sweet mini weenie dog that loves water (Daisy), cameras, flowers, air conditioning, coffee and creamer, playdoh, Bath & Body Works, push up bras, sweet tea, computers, mexican food, organizers/planners, and chocolate.

What a great gift- my life and all thats it in. Im so RICH I could not ask for more. Happy Birthday to me, thank you Lord.

Summer

2008-06-03T11:57:00.000-07:00

...Well, its been a while since I have posted anything. Its just been too busy around here! Now its summer. And my oh my, Im not sure if things are going to slow down much.

Around this time last year I thought to myself "What in the world will I be doing with four kids home all day?" I think its important to have a relaxing fun-filled summer- but I want it to be purposeful as well. (Ephesians 5:15-16 Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, 16making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.)

Last year I concluded on a few pointers- they worked so well- I am doing it again this summer. Let me share, and maybe you might glean from, or even tip in and share some of your grand summer ideas.

As I started to plan for the upcoming summer I FIRST, and foremost, PRAYED. I wrote out what are some of the needs of my children (physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, academically) Then I set a few goals and wrote out a few mission statements for each child. Kayla and Emily are old enough to partake in this too. (They wrote out some of the things they want to do this summer, etc)

Then we ORDERED OUR SUMMER, by writing out on the calendar some vacation plans, and weekly schedules according to our goals and needs. So this summer, everyday in the weekday has a theme.
Monday-swim day at the pool, house cleanup.
Tuesday-Adventure Day (zoo, museum, water parks)
Wednesday-Schooling (Reiterating things learned last year at school- and strengthening in these subjects for the next year in a FUN ocean/beach theme)
Thursday-Kids Kingdom-summer--mothers day out, Friend Day.
Friday- Cook and/or Art Day- where we make something by art or cook and give it away to someone of choice. Sort of an outreach experience.

We also have a daily schedule where we do consistent things, like quiet times, breakfast, playtime, movies-computer, outside, reading (check your local Summer Book clubs- great incentives!), lunch, naps, snack, games, etc. Schedules are a must around here but they are also flexible.

IMPORTANTS!
~In order to be a good mommy all day- I must get some alone time in the mornings. Its my goal to get up, spend some quiet time with the Lord (so I may walk in the fruit of the spirit) and then I go for a morning exercise which really does give me more energy.
~I make it a goal to try to get some ONE ON ONE time with each kid- even if its at least for 30 minutes at two different times. Thats when I work on loving, encouraging, building up each child considering each of their love languages.
~Family getaways are always a good time to.. getaway and focus on eachother and fun. I encourage you to plan at least one- to camp, or stay at a family members out of town to visit their local zoo, or even take a day trip somewhere.

Im sure there is more I could mention, but these things here for sure are the most important. May you all have the best summer!

Feel free to contact me if you have any questions, or leave any of your very own summer ideas that work for you and your family!

A forward from my weekly email devotional from Max Lucado. com

2008-04-27T13:38:00.000-07:00

Thump-Thud, Thump-Thud

by Max Lucado

When a potter bakes a pot, he checks its solidity by pulling it out of the oven and thumping it. If it “sings,” it’s ready. If it “thuds,” it’s placed back in the oven.

The character of a person is also checked by thumping.

Been thumped lately?

Late-night phone calls. Grouchy teacher. Grumpy moms. Burnt meals. Flat tires. You’ve-got-to-be-kidding deadlines. Those are thumps. Thumps are those irritating inconveniences that trigger the worst in us. They catch us off guard. Flat-footed. They aren’t big enough to be crises, but if you get enough of them, watch out! Traffic jams. Long lines. Empty mailboxes. Dirty clothes on the floor. Even as I write this, I’m being thumped. Because of interruptions, it has taken me almost two hours to write these two paragraphs. Thump. Thump. Thump.

How do I respond? Do I sing, or do I thud?

Jesus said that out of the nature of the heart a man speaks (Luke 6:45). There’s nothing like a good thump to reveal the nature of a heart. The true character of a person is seen not in momentary heroics but in the thump-packed humdrum of day-to-day living.

If you have a tendency to thud more than you sing, take heart.

There is hope for us “thudders”:

Begin by thanking God for thumps. I don’t mean a half-hearted thank-you. I mean a rejoicing, jumping-for-joy thank-you from the bottom of your heart (James 1:2). Chances are that God is doing the thumping. And he’s doing it for your own good. So every thump is a reminder that God is molding you (Hebrews 12:5-8).

Learn from each thump. Face up to the fact that you are not “thump-proof.” You are going to be tested from now on. You might as well learn from the thumps—you can’t avoid them. Look upon each inconvenience as an opportunity to develop patience and persistence. Each thump will help you or hurt you, depending on how you use it.

Be aware of “thump-slump” times. Know your pressure periods. For me, Mondays are infamous for causing thump-slumps. Fridays can be just as bad. For all of us, there are times during the week when we can anticipate an unusual amount of thumping. The best way to handle thump-slump times? Head on. Bolster yourself with extra prayer, and don’t give up.

Remember no thump is disastrous. All thumps work for good if we are loving and obeying God.

EXPECTATIONS!!

2008-04-18T05:24:00.000-07:00

"Expectations are just disappointments in progress"

Has anyone else ever heard of this qoute? Im not sure if I entirely agree with it, but in this certain angle of this post-Im in agreement. I constantly end up disappointed from the high expectations I have on others.

My downfall is these expectations are either too high or unrealistic, or are just uncommunicated.

In my mind, I put these high expectations on people, whether its job performance with coworkers, or peers to obtain the same moral standards, or family to always come through, or friends to always be supportive, or my children to always be well-behaved.. I could go on and on. These high or unrealistict expectations will lead me to disappointment.
Im learning to consider a new point of view. For instance, I was recently disappointed over a certain situation with a friend. Her actions disappointed me terribly-more so because I expected something of her. Then my husband helped me realized there might be another perspective to look at. My view of her actions might not be the motive of hers. Does that make sense? My perspective doesnt always line up with reality. Its not my friends fault Im hurt or holding a grudge, it was my expectations that got me hurt Im suffering from those high unrealistic expectations.

Sadly, my birthday or special holidays like Mother's day always tend to end up in disappointment--because the day never pans out the way I expected it to. Ive learned to communicate with my husband that I expect him to aknowledge ME specifically on Mother's Day. Clearly communicating and sometimes negotiating with the person I have the expectations with seems to help. That way we can all be on the same page.

Lastly, its also been EXTREMELY freeing to be able to hold things "loosely". To be flexible and thankful with whatever happens-happens. Its a mindset Im learning to obtain!

So the quote "No expectations, fewer disappointments!" is something I try to repeat to myself often when it comes to these particular type of scenarios.

How do you deal with expectations and disappointments?

Refining Silver

2008-04-14T20:44:00.000-07:00

Malachi 3:3 says: 'He will sit as a refiner and purifier of silver.'

This verse puzzled some people in a Bible study and they wondered what
this statement meant about the character and nature of God.

One of the people offered to find out the process of refining silver and
get back to the group at their next Bible Study.

That week, the woman called a silversmith and made an appointment to
watch him at work. She didn't mention anything about the reason for her
interest beyond her curiosity about the process of refining Silver.

As she watched the silversmith, he held a piece of silver over the fire
and let it heat up. He explained that in refining silver, one needed to
hold the silver in the middle of the fire where the flames were hottest
so as to burn away all the impurities.

The woman thought about God holding us in such a hot spot; then she
thought again about the verse that says: 'He sits as a refiner and
purifier of silver.' She asked the silversmith if it was true that He
had to sit there in front of the fire the whole time the silver was
being refined.

The man answered that He not only had to sit there holding the silver,
but he had to keep his eyes on the silver the entire time it was in the
fire. If the silver was left a moment too long in the flames, it would
be destroyed.

The woman was silent for a moment. Then she asked the silversmith, 'How
do you know when the silver is fully refined?'
He smiled at her and answered,
'Oh, that's easy,' 'When I see my image in it.'

If you are feeling the heat of the fire, remember that God has his eye
on you and will keep watching you until He sees His image in you.
Whatever you're going through, you will be a better person in the end.

'Life is a coin. You can spend it any way you wish, but you can only
spend it once.'

I recieved this is an email the other day, and thought I'd share. What a great parallel.

Being Sharpened.

2008-03-18T07:06:00.001-07:00

Last Sunday, we were at life group (a weekly time a group of people meet consistently to fellowship and learn more about the Bible, and pray for each other) and the adults were all together in one room, and the children were all together with our wonderful children leaders Kayla and Lee in different rooms. Each week all the children list out any prayer requests. My daughter Emily's prayer request was "That my Daddy and Mommy would not argue all the time."

Now, when I first heard about this special prayer request from the children's leader I sort of laughed it off, thinking kids say the darnest things. Then on the way home it started to seep in my pores and I began to think "WHAT? We don't fight all the time! What in the WORLD is Emily talking about?!"

I decided to go to Emily and get more information. I kindly thanked her for thinking of daddy and mommy, then asked her about the prayer request. I just wanted to get her perspective. "Well, you and daddy argue alot." those words cut through my heart as I asked her to give me a certain time she might have remembered us "arguing". Of course she couldn't think of a specific time.

SO later after the kids had gone to bed, Joel and I discussed this more. I had to put down all pride, hurts, and anger and really wanted to allow Emily to "sharpen" me. The Word, which is my source of Truth, says "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another". Proverbs 27:17

Honestly, Joel and I do not fight alot, but we did have to sit and re-evaluate to see what was Emily talking about. We concluded that even the slightest of arguments or any heated debates we have had in the past might appear to be an argument or fighting to our children. I'm glad they are sensitive to think of it that way- and I'm so thankful that we don't have full blown fights in front of our children. (I'm not saying we're perfect, Im sure there has been times were we went a little too far in a heated argument.)

On the other hand, it might be good to have more "constructive" opportunities to show our children that debates and discussions aren't necessarily bad. People will not always agree, and its good to have these times to talk it out. This has also alarmed us to watch ourselves if things start to get heated between us- we should wait it out when the kiddos aren't around.

So I share this, in hopes that others might use opportunities like these to allow themselves to be sharpened. Its hard to accept it from a child, but who better, when its coming from such a pure place. Joel and I learned alot from that simple prayer request, and I think the Lord answered it immediately.

Music Monday: Your Music Geneology

2008-03-17T08:25:00.000-07:00

OKAY! I have a HUGE embarrassing confession to make. Only because Im trying to help my friend Kat not look so bad. Check out her Music Monday.

One of my first albums I bought on my own were that of New Kids On The Block. But Im not even gonna go there. Im gonna really embarass myself- I had a huge infatuation with the one hit wonder KRIS KROSS. Oh my goodness- is this going to "date" me?

I must say, I am VERY thankful no one has ANY evidence I use to wear my clothes backwards at times, and would wear the KRIS KROSS paraphernalia. Although, other than my immediate family, a friend who knows me longer than any other, can testify I was such a dork! And Oh my goodness, she might even have evidence! But also, let it be known, this no way represents who I am today, nor does it reflect my character.

ANYHOO....here is one of their videos "Jump". Hope I this post helps somewhat save your image Kat!

Pain is weakness leaving the body!

2008-03-13T11:25:00.000-07:00

Have you heard that before? "Pain is weakness leaving the body."

I have been doing alot of physical activity (working out at Curves, playing soccer, remodeling-painting) and I am so sore! SO I keep telling myself this over and over again to sort of help myself deal with the painful thighs, sore shoulders, and aching muscles.

Hopefully I can continue to stay physical and it will all flee me!

Annoyances

2008-02-29T03:58:00.000-08:00

Annoyance is an unpleasant mental state that is characterized by such effects as irritation and distraction from one's conscious thinking.

I get annoyed way too often.

Some major annoyances for me are outside noises (dogs barking, music thumping), bad drivers (you know-the drivers who don't make a right turn until the traffic light turns green), selfish people (the kind that think only about themselves and it shows!).

Some minor annoyances would be my family (dont get me wrong-I love my family!), inconveniences (detours, spills, forgetfulness), a dirty house(which is often!).

I cannot seem to have a day pass without dealing with some type of annoyances.

What about you? What annoys you?

So, how do I deal with annoyances?
~I aknowledge it annoys me! I cant pretend it doesnt! I take a mental note, and then tuck it aside so the annoyance doesnt take control.
~I try to diffuse the annoyance by saying something funny. (That dog must be trying to communicate with entire the neighborhood!)
~I adopted this from my husband, while being annoyed, he says "THANK YOU JESUS." Thanking God in the midst can really help!
~At times, I just have to flat out ignore it. Somethings just dont deserve my time or reaction!

What about you? How do you deal with annoyances?

Music Monday: Great Love Songs

2008-02-24T21:40:00.000-08:00

Its Music Monday at Kat's place. Alrighty, I'm in this week!

Any song by Sarah Mclachlan in the late 90's would be considered a love song between Joel and I. We loved her music, and litsened to it often, especially when we wanted to think of eachother while we were apart. We still litsen to her today. She has a beautiful voice, and her music takes us back to our ealrier days together.

"Elsewhere" from the album: "Fumbling Towards Ecstasy" (1993)There is no great video for this song. But at least there is something on YouTube.

"I Love You" from the album: "Surfacing" (1997)

"Angel" also from the album: "Surfacing" (1997)

Disappointment................

2008-02-21T21:19:00.001-08:00

I have recently dealt with some HUGE disappointments. Things just didnt turn out the way I/we had hoped for. One was personal, and the other was a disappointment for my child.

In the midst of coping, I thought I'd share how Im trying to not let disappointment get me down. Maybe this will help someone else out there!

~Giving myself some time has helped. A little time passed sure can help gain perspective.

~Its also important to express my "side effect" feelings. Such as sadness, anger, self-doubt, despair, and hopelessness. My hubby is the best man in the world to share these feelings with.

~While we sometimes get stuck focusing on the here and now, our present situation isn't the end of the story. So I know that blessings are being disguised in these problems that have sprung on the disappointment.

~Im looking for way to lever the bad into a good. You know, when life gives you lemons, make lemonade? I have to be careful though, because sometimes this can be a fault- where the "fix-it" in me can get carried away.

~Staying positive has been helpful. Having a negative attitude wont help anyone. In the thick of things, I wanted to be outright UGLY! But, I kept going back to the qoute "Kindness is the oil that takes the friction out of life."

~Lastly, and most importantly I find comfort in the Word of God. Which is my source of Truth. I was reminded that "God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God"

Then I came across 2 Corinthians 4:16-18.
"Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal"

God's plans are nearly always bigger than we think. The sting of our relatively short-term disappointments in no way compares to the ultimate hope we have in Him.

"Cross Walk"

2008-02-19T07:46:00.001-08:00

I have recieved this is numerous emails, and have seen this posted on some blogs. I like this illustration so much, I decided to post it her for all of you! At times we might complain about the cross we bear, but dont realize its preparing us for the dip in the road that God can see ahead- but we cannot.

7 Weird Things About Me

2008-02-16T17:20:00.000-08:00

Okay, so I got tagged by my good pal gwsas, and here I am posting seven weird things about me. I couldn't think of alot of weird things, so I had to ask my family. Funny thing, they couldnt or didnt want to mention many weird things about me.

So, here is what we came up with.

1. When Im trying to figure out which direction Im heading, I cant say it in this order "North, East, South, West" I have to say it in this order- "Never Eat Sour Worms" Something I learned in grade school. I actually read that another person has this same issue!
2. My hubby thinks Im weird because I think out loud.
3. Kayla thinks Im weird because I have tattoos.
4. I think Im weird because I enjoy plucking hair...off of me and people around me, not Joel's favorite.
5. Also, I always have to wash my dishes after I wash my dishes. I hand wash each dish, then I place it in the dishwasher to be washed. I like having extra clean dishes, or I must have trust issues with the dishwasher!
6. Once a week I like to stop by a blog called PostSecret. Its a place where people send in their secrets. I find it extremely fascinating. Caution- enter the site at your own risk, at times the content can be a bit risky.
7. Lastly, I talk to the other drivers while Im driving (whether its in my thoughts, or I say it out loud). Sometimes, I dont say nice things, and to be honest Im working on that, especially when in the car the other day Kayla said "oh come on car, would you move over!"

There you have it!
I now tag my oldest, bestest friend who is now a new blogger Megan
And I also tag my sister in law Becca.

Favoritism

2008-02-16T08:40:00.000-08:00

fa·vor·it·ism [fey-ver-i-tiz-uhm, feyv-ri-]
Pronunciation –noun

1.	the favoring of one person or group over others with equal claims; partiality: to show favoritism toward the youngest child.

2.	the state of being a favorite.

Have you ever experienced this thing called favoritism?
Either yourself being partial or bias to something or someone?
Or have you been a victim to such discrimination?

More than likely you have answered yes to both these questions, because we are a fallen people who live in a fallen world where selfish intentions can motivate us, or sin can blind us to such partisanship.

I have recently experienced favoritism, and it does not feel good. So out of my emotions, hurts, and anger, I chose to look up what the Word says about favoritism. And I found these verses in the book of James, chapter two:

1My brothers, as believers in our glorious Lord Jesus Christ, don't show favoritism.

8If you really keep the royal law found in Scripture, "Love your neighbor as yourself," you are doing right. 9But if you show favoritism, you sin and are convicted by the law as lawbreakers. 10For whoever keeps the whole law and yet stumbles at just one point is guilty of breaking all of it.

12Speak and act as those who are going to be judged by the law that gives freedom, 13because judgment without mercy will be shown to anyone who has not been merciful. Mercy triumphs over judgment!

WOW! For some reason reading this passage has given me so much freedom and peace. On Bible Gateway (one of my favorite online Bibles) you can search favoritism, and find there is so much written about it. Click here to see.

Does God show favoritism? I dont think so! The Word, which is my source of truth, says in plain words "For God does not show favoritism." Romans 2:11

So, as the commandament goes "Love your neighbor" I must choose to show mercy and forgivness to those who trespass against me, and hold no judegement OR discrimination for their acts of favoritism, for I would want the same for myself.

Plus I know there is only one Lawgiver and Judge- God. We will all stand before God's judgment seat. He will bring to light what is hidden in darkness and will expose the motives of men's heart. (Which convicts me to keep a clean pure heart!)

What more can I do? Except share this enlightenment with all of you!

Music Monday: Musical Guilty Pleasure

2008-02-11T05:55:00.000-08:00

I havent jumped in on Music Mondays yet, so today I thought I would......would come clean. I have ridden myself from alot of secular music just because Im in a season where I need to feed my soul. And some of the music I like is sort of like "junk food".

Im more of a hard rock/punk rock kinda girl. I like Metallica, Tool, Beastie Boys, Ozzy Osborne, the Cure. Honestly, I grew up on this stuff. (Seriously, my mom recently went to a Tool concert-she is still a hard rocker!)

So I choose to play a song called "Nothing Else Matters" by Metallica, and a song called "SABOTAGE" by the Beastie Boys.

A nightmare.....

2008-02-10T06:34:00.000-08:00

I woke myself up a little after midnight from my own agonizing crying.

I was in the middle of a nightmare.

It had been three days and my two baby boys were still missing! Joel and I had left them both in the car while they were sleeping, the car doors were locked. Someone stole the car, and took our two precious boys with them. There was no sign of the car or our boys. And it was day 3. The reality had sunk it that I couldnt care for my babies, were their needs being met? Had they eaten? Have they had diaper changes? I couldnt hug and comfort them, The dead weight reality of lack of control as a mother for my children was so unbearable that I bursted into this overwhelming cry out of my gut.

Which is what woke me up. It took me about 5 minutes to regain my emotions after my husband kept reassuring me it was just a dream. I checked on my boys and realized everything was okay. BUT I just couldnt go back to sleep. And I couldnt stop thinking about how real my feelings were.

Then I began to realize that my nightmare is unfortunatly a reality for some people. In this world, even in our country, and in my state, children are being abducted. I went to the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children website and was overwhelmed by the amounts of missing children.

Half of me wanted to click out of the site, and ignore that there is such a thing, its that self-defense mechanism we all have to ingore and push away the things that hurt. But instead I chose to push on and look at the children missing in my area. It hurt, and I can only imagine the hurt the parents and family must be feeling.

I am writing this post to encourage you to go visit the website just as I did. At least we can look, and try to keep a visual in our minds, because you never know what kind of opportunity we might have to help a missing child. OR we can even pray over the children and their families. There is also more you can do to get involved. Click here to find out more. Above is icon for National Center for Missing & Exploited Children website, just click on it and it'll take you to the site.

BTW.. I felt this post was so important, I posted it on both my sites.

A great video....

2008-02-08T07:11:00.000-08:00

.......to share the good news!
http://www.thegoodnews.org/CD/unconditional_love/unconditional_love.html

Psalm 97:10

2008-02-07T20:50:00.000-08:00

“Let those who love the LORD hate evil, for he guards the lives of his faithful ones and delivers them from the hand of the wicked.”

What does this scripture say/mean to you?

To me, it means standing for the Truth.
Its says" do not walk the boundary line with sin."
I also think it says we are to love the sinners (faithful ones), but are to hate sin. (Sin is to be hated, not excused or taken lightly)

Unconditional Love

2008-02-03T12:28:00.000-08:00

Recently, I've been thinking alot about conditional and unconditional love.

Unconditional love is a concept that means showing love towards someone regardless of his or her actions or beliefs.
Conditional love is a concept that means love is shown on a performance only basis. Meaning if you do this, or act that way, or perform in some way that meets an expectation, love will be awarded.

Unconditional love is 'given freely' to the loved one 'no matter what'. Conditional love is 'earned' on the basis of conscious or unconscious conditions being met by the lover.

I know I have experienced both conditional and unconditional love. For sure, I am more fond of receiving unconditional love. But Im not so sure I always give out unconditional love.

Starting with my husband, at times he disappoints me, I should never let disappointment resemble my love for him.
Or with my children, when inconvenience occurs, I shouldn't respond with my angry eyes which doesnt show love at all.
With my family members, whether we agree or disagree with how we deal with life, that shouldn't affect the way I love them.
At times even with friends, they might not treat me the way I treat them, should I still unconditionally love them?

It seems the love that parents have for their children is as close to unconditional love as we can get without the help if God's love in our lives. We continue to love our children through the good and bad times, and we dont stop loving them if they dont meet our expectations. We make the choice to love our children even when we don't "feel" love for them. This is similar to God's love for us, but God's love transcends the human definition of love to a point that is hard for us to comprehend.

God is Love, and His love is very different from human love. God's love is unconditional, and it's not based on feelings or emotions. He doesn't love us because we're lovable or because we make Him feel good; He loves us because He is love. He created us to have a loving relationship with Him, and He sacrificed His own Son (who also willingly died for us) to restore that relationship.

God is Love! As such, true love -- God's love -- can be summed up in this passage of scripture:
"7Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 8Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 9This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. 10This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 11Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another." (1 John 4:7-11)

God is ready to pour out His love on us, and He wants to teach us how to love others as He loves us. I pray that we can be an example of Gods love by showing it unconditionally to our family and friends around us.

"The Calling Of Matthew"

2008-01-28T21:05:00.000-08:00

Matthew 9:9-13
9 As Jesus went on from there, he saw a man named Matthew sitting at the tax collector's booth. "Follow me," he told him, and Matthew got up and followed him. 10 While Jesus was having dinner at Matthew's house, many tax collectors and "sinners" came and ate with him and his disciples.
11 When the Pharisees saw this, they asked his disciples, "Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and 'sinners'?" 12 On hearing this, Jesus said, "It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. 13 But go and learn what this means: I desire mercy, not sacrifice. For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners."

I don't know if you realize it or not but Matthew was an outcast. It was risky and politically incorrect for Jesus to call someone like Matthew to be one of His disciples. Tax collectors in those days were viewed as traitors and crooks.

First, they were Jews working for the hated oppressors – the Romans – collecting taxes. Second, generally they were very rich because they charged far more in taxes than the law required. Third, being a tax collector and customs official Matthew had daily contact with "unclean" pagans. Furthermore, we are told that Matthew actually allowed tax collectors and sinners into his home. Not only did Matthew break the laws on uncleanness but he often broke the Sabbath rules as well.

Was Matthew a sinner? Was he unclean? Was he a crook? Did he sell out to the hated Romans? Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Jesus knew all this. Jesus was aware of all this. Jesus never said Matthew was none of these.

Those who were so eager to condemn him were sinners themselves. We are told that when the Pharisees saw Jesus eating with Matthew, other tax collectors, and sinners, they questioned His disciples about this. This wasn't a simple question asked out of curiousity. Rather, it was said with accusation and anger and hostility. "WHY DOES YOUR TEACHER EAT WITH TAX COLLECTORS AND 'SINNERS'?" Why does Jesus lower Himself and contaminate Himself?

"Follow me." These are the words Jesus says to Matthew, to the sinners and tax collectors, to the scribes and Pharisees."Follow me." These are the words Jesus says to us. And, we all are sinners – you, me, everyone you know! Jesus knows our sins – just like He knew Matthew's. He knows our lusts. He knows our coveting. He knows our disobedience. He knows all of this yet He says, "Follow me."

But, then, why did Jesus come? Why the incarnation? Why did the second person of the triune Godhead take on our flesh? He did this to call sick sinners – like Matthew, and the scribes and Pharisees, and you and me – to follow Him.

Many times we put up walls – in our homes, in our churches, in our circle of friends. We put up walls that keep people like Matthew out. We pick and choose. We look down on some people, like the scribes and Pharisees looked down on Matthew and tax collectors and sinners. We look down on some people and conclude they are a lost cause, that they are not worth our effort and our time. We separate ourselves from the very people our Lord Jesus came to save. If Jesus acted the same way that we sometimes do He would never have called Matthew. So, we need to hear the words of Jesus: "It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick ... I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners."

Now, as Jesus points out, it is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. It isn't the healthy who make a visit to the emergency room, but the sick.

Well, Jesus is the doctor. He is the One Who gives healing. He is the One Who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. He is the One Who heals the sick, raises the dead, and cleanses those who have leprosy. He is the One Who cures the sickness in our souls. Jesus has come to call sinners. He is the One Who would heal all that is wrong in our lives and make us God's child again. He is the One Who meets us in our misery and calls us to come to Him and be healed and made whole.

"Follow me," said Jesus to a sick sinner named Matthew. Notice how Matthew responded? "Matthew got up and followed him." Following Jesus is not an easy thing. Quite often it requires sacrifice. Many times those who follow Jesus have to give up something or maybe even everything.

This was not easy for Matthew to do. This meant sacrifice. This meant commitment. This meant a new and different direction to his life. Do you think Matthew was still able to be a tax collector after he answered Jesus' call? Do you think he could still hang out with all his old friends and do the same things with them he did before? Do you think life went on for Matthew pretty much the same as it was before? I think Matthew knew life was forever different from now on.

Do you know what this tells me? This tells me no one is beyond the reach of God's grace. Matthew wasn't. Nor were the tax collectors and sinners he invited into his home. Nor were the scribes and Pharisees who were so quick to condemn him and write him off. Nor are you and me and any of our loved ones.

"THANK YOU Jesus for coming for us sick sinners. For calling us to follow You. You came to heal us and restore us and make us whole. I pray each of us would have the boldness to just get up and follow you just like Matthew did. And that we would be willing to give up everything for You!"

ANGER!!!!!

2007-11-25T09:49:00.001-08:00

I have had lots of people contact me about my post on anger, so I felt like I needed to keep this topic going.

We (humans) all deal with different magnitudes of anger, especially as a mommy, we have alot of unpredictable, uncontrollable scenarios that push our buttons. Its WHAT we do WITH our anger that becomes the problem.

I would say I am a recovering rageaholic. The word rageaholic is patterned after "alcoholic" and "workaholic" or similar names, and the condition is called "rageaholism" (as in "alcoholism").

The rageaholic is addicted to the expression of anger just like the alcoholic is addicted to alcohol. As with the alcoholic, all attempts of willpower to control the addiction have failed repeatedly.

Ive learned that my lack of willpower (yelling, cursing, throwing things, stomping around, etc.) only fuels my rage, just like an alcoholic taking a tiny drink.

The tools I mentioned before on this blog really DO help me. PLUS, I have lots of accountability. My sweet hubby keeps me accountable, by saying the word "MUSKRAT" when I start to lose willpower. Its a funny word we heard before and him saying it always gives me perspective. I also have a close girlfriend, who knows my anger struggles, and she checks in on me and keeps me accountable with not abusing my hubby with my rageaholism.

My poor family suffers the most from my past rageaholism. I honestly would say I'm no longer a rageaholic. But it has taken lots of prayer, work, accountability, and it can be easy to have another episode if I'm not careful.

My mom was a rageaholic, and her dad was too, its one of those generational curses I have vowed that will STOP with me! There are several places in the Bible that warns against anger. James 1:20 says "for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God". I desperately want to live a righteous life that will be passed on like golden treasures to my children and to their children.

Im reading....

2007-10-11T17:38:00.001-07:00

...a new book by Max Lucado. Its called Facing Your Giants.

Below is the intro to the book. I encourage anyone looking for a book to read this one. Im in a local book club (can you believe that?)that will discuss this book in November, Id love to have you join our group--just contact me for more info!

You know your Goliath. You recognize his walk, the thunder of his voice.

He taunts you with bills you can’t pay, people you can’t please, habits you can’t break, failures you can’t forget, and a future you can’t face. But just like David, you can face your giant, even if you aren’t the strongest, the smartest, the best equipped, or the holiest.

David. You could read his story and wonder what God saw in him. His life has little to offer the unstained, straight-A saint. He fell as often as he stood, stumbled as often as he conquered. But for those who know the sound of a Goliath, David gives this reminder:

Focus on giants—you stumble.
Focus on God—your giants tumble.

If you're ready to face your giants, let his story inspire you. The same God who helped him will help you.

Controlling anger before it controls you!!

2007-10-05T08:50:00.001-07:00

Im just gonna be honest here.....
just like I usually am on this site.
I struggle with anger....it controls me often....
often enough that I sought out help...
and here is where I have concluded.

Anger is an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. Like other emotions, it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes; when you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do the levels of your energy hormones, adrenaline, and noradrenaline.

People use a variety of both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with their angry feelings. The three main approaches are expressing, suppressing, and calming.

Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive not aggressive manner is the healthiest way to express anger as well as calming down. Calming down inside means not just controlling your outward behavior, but also controlling your internal responses, taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down, and let the feelings subside.

Im really not an angry person. But I realized Im the type of person who has a low tolerance for frustration, meaning I feel like I should not have to be subjected to frustration, inconvenience, or annoyance. I can't take things in stride, and I get infuriated if the situation seems somehow unneccessary. When these situations arise, Im a rage-aholic!

I have tools to help with these times where I want to fly off the handle.
-I try to calm myself- take a deep breath. Praying everytime always helps, and its relaxing. This also helps my heart rate and blood pressure.
-I am trying to change the way I think when in the heat of the moment. Getting angry is not going to fix anything, and it won't make me feel better. Logic defeats anger, because anger, even when it's justified, can quickly become irrational.
-Im trying to approach every situation with my best intentions and efforts to problem solve and find a resolution.
-Im gonna stop, litsen, think, then talk. I tend to jump to—and act on—conclusions.
-Humor helps me defuse rage, it helps me get a more balanced perspective.

So, if any of you out there have a problem with anger or rage, trying one or all of these tools will help. I promise!!

"To dabble in pornography is to indulge in vapors – a pleasure as fleeting as a wisp of smoke. "

2007-09-26T11:45:00.000-07:00

This is a quote from a fellow blogger who has posted an excellent post on the topic of porn. You can read his post here.

He also noted some sad, shocking statistics about porn. I found myself in those same statistics -I was exposed to porn when I was 10 or 11, my parents had quite the collection. Then I-myself struggled with pornography for years.

But now, by Gods power I am free of porn. These are words from a favorite song- Im sure you might know it "My chains are gone- Ive been set free- my God my Savior, has randsomed me!!"
I think we all need to be talking about this. We need to somehow combat this. I think of the 40 day (online-blogging) fast I was apart of, and NO ONE mentioned porn, no one fasted for porn.

PORN is not a topic people want to talk about-but what a GREAT opportunity to share the victory of the cross.

LOOK at what ALL God CAN do!!

2007-09-02T19:57:00.000-07:00

This is a Lifehouse "Everything" Skit,
be prepared to cry, I do everytime.

"Issac"

2007-08-26T21:18:00.000-07:00

I got a new minivan today. We named it "Issac".

Are you familiar with the story in Genesis where Abraham was tested? You can read all about it here. Well, just like Abraham, Joel and I were tested. We had to put "Issac the Honda Odyssey" on the alter to sacrifice about 6 months ago. And by the grace of God, we are the proud owners of the van today.

I could go into great detail, but I will basically cut it short here. We were approached by a "soon to be" missionary who needed to sell her van, she wanted to sell us her minivan. We had to decline, there was no way we could buy such a car. Someone else came along ready to buy the van. (Which broke my heart) well after the van being put aside on hold until it was time to sell, the people had to back out- couldnt buy the car. So it was two weeks time to leave the country, and the car still wasnt sold. SO, we were approached again. God opened alot of doors, and we were able to purchase the van. WALLA, we now own a new minivan!! GOD IS GOOD!!

I encourage you, to search, and hear, what is God asking you to put aside for Him? Who knows! He might have something BETTER planned for you!

Warning! THIEF! Stolen treasure!!

2007-08-19T21:21:00.000-07:00

It has appeared my outlook on what a treasure my marriage is has been stolen lately by my lack of appreciation for my sweet husband. I have focused on what ISN'T being done, rather than on all that is being done and done well.

The enemy of my faith is called a thief and a liar. And one of the thing I've recently allowed him to steal from me, is seeing my hubby as a gift from God, to help me to become more like Christ. I've failed to see Joel as a true blessing in my life. I've allowed my eyesight to become focused on the negative to such a degree that I don’t see the positive and acknowledge it.

The Bible says in Ephesians 4, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ouch! As I think about what I've said to my hubby lately, it wasnt wholesome and it sure didnt benefit him!!!

So I admit today, that my marriage is a treasure and gift from God, and I choose to do what I can so it won't lose its luster so it can SHINE to the glory of God. I will no longer allow my marriage to be robbed of being people, who “give thanks in every situation” knowing that God can “work good” even out of that which appears to be bad on the surface!

How about you? Is there a place where you might see a theif trying to steal? Maybe not even in a marriage, but a friendship, or with a relative, or coworker?

Money, Possessions and Eternity by Rany Alcorn

2007-08-12T21:29:00.000-07:00

If you haven't read this book, I strongly enourage you to do so. It gives a great eternal perspective on earning, spending, saving, and investing money.

In America, we are surrounded by material abundance. Toys and gadgets abound, roads are clean and wide, houses are beauitfuly perfect and restaurants throw out loads of leftovers each week.

Money is powerful, unlocking the door to endless conveniences and many options in life.This book challenges you to expand your views of money and material wealth.

Did you know Jesus said more about money than any other thing? Because money is an index to a man's true character.

Jesus said (Matthew 6:19-21)
"Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also."

This is a video that only touches on this type of perspective Randy talks about.

Confession.....

2007-08-09T20:57:00.001-07:00

I have a fear of bridges. I do. And I can manage it well.

But recently, there was a major bridge that collapsed and its all in the media. Which I think brought back some legitimate fears.

Well, I have been forced several times to drive over a bridge that goes over a lake this past week. I find myself going 10-15 over the speed limit just to get over the forever long bridge.

My mind ponders what my plan would be if the bridge collapses and my car falls into the water. By the way, do you think car seats float? Hmmm.

Anyway, I thank God for stretching me. Sending me over that bridge, to work out that fear, because after all, the spirit of fear has all the power I will relent to it.

Can anyone relate? Bridges might not do that to you, but maybe spiders? Or men? Or airplanes?

A thought to ponder.......

2007-08-07T22:08:00.000-07:00

"DO YOU KNOW WHERE YOU ARE GOING??" from God

I read that off of a church billboard today. And I was wondering...hmmm, do I really know where I am going?

Yes, I knew that I was headed home, but in life???

You know, I at times think through PLAN B, I ask the Lord for provision over PLAN B, knowing that this is the ultimate plan for my life at the time. Frusteratingly enough-- PLAN B just doesnt pan out.

THEN God gives me PLAN A.

Has this ever happened to you? Right now, are you thinking through PLAN B?

"In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD determines his steps." Proverbs 16:9

$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$

2007-08-05T22:41:00.000-07:00

My husband and I have been documenting every dollar that comes through since January. Its actually very interesting now that we are halfway through the year and seeing what we spend our money on the most.

I challenge you to take record of your spendings for a month. And by the end of the month see where your every dollar went. You will be surprised!

Can you guess what what most of our dollars go to?
Mortgage! Home sweet home!

Second thing we spend most of our dollars on: groceries
Third: tithe

Interesting isnt it?

A lesson in Humilty by Max Lucado

2007-08-01T14:49:00.000-07:00

Jesus … made Himself of no reputation … He humbled Himself and became obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross.
Philippians 2:5, 7–8

Deflating inflated egos is so important to God that he offers to help.

He helped me. I recently spent a week on a book tour. We saw long lines and crowded stores. One person after another complimented me. For three days I bathed in the river of praise. I began to believe the accolades. All these people can’t be wrong. I must be God’s gift to readers. My chest puffed so much I could hardly see where to autograph the books. Why, had I been born two thousand years earlier, we might read the gospels of Matthew, Max, Luke, and John. About the time I wondered if the Bible needed another epistle, God shot an arrow of humility in my direction.

We were running late for an evening book signing, late because the afternoon signing had seen such long lines. We expected the same at the next store. Concerned, we phoned ahead. “We are running behind. Tell all the people we’ll arrive soon.”

“No need to hurry,” the store manager assured.

“What about the people?”

“Neither one seems to be in a hurry.”

Neither one?

By the time we reached the store, thankfully, the crowd of two people had tripled to six. We had scheduled two hours for the signing; I needed ten minutes.

Self-conscious about sitting alone at the table, I peppered the last person with questions. We talked about her parents, school, Social Security number, favorite birthday party. Against my pleadings, she had to go. So I sat alone at the table. Big stack of Lucado books, no one in line.

I asked the store manager, “Did you advertise?”

“We did. More than usual.” She walked off.

The next time she passed I asked, “Had other signings?”

“Yes, usually we have a great response,” and kept going.

I signed all the books at my table. I signed all the Lucado books on the shelves. I signed Tom Clancy and John Grisham books. Finally a customer came to the table. “You write books?” he asked, picking up the new one.

“I do. Want me to sign it?”

“No thanks,” he answered and left.

God hit his target. Lest I forget, my daily reading the next morning had this passage: “Do not be wise in your own eyes” (Prov. 3:7).

When you’re full of yourself, God can’t fill you.

But when you empty yourself, God has a useful vessel.

2007-08-01T09:25:00.000-07:00

A way of life????

2007-07-28T22:25:00.001-07:00

I compare this picture to the one Kat posted in the very beginning.

This picture was taken inside the qualis we (me, my husband, our children, and some team members) were in. It was temporarily parked at a stop light. This girl, maybe 8, the same age of my daughter who was also in the car, came to our window. She was begging for money. We've seen lots of beggars for its a way of life in India but this was much worse. If you notice below in the zoomed in picture, her left hand has blood all over it.

Again, at the stop light, this girl comes up to our window, and puts her hand right in our faces. My girls (ages 8 and 7) get a glimpse, then my husband quickly diverts their attention. With the lights que, our driver drives off, and a team member quickly takes a picture as we drive away from this precious girl.

Did you know its not uncommon for a child to be beaten or staged to make them objects of greater pity in order to recieve more money? This girls innocence has been robbed by such a crooked system. Whether the blood was fake or not isn't the issue, it was clearly intentional for this girl to appear hurt.

I just felt compelled to share this picture with all of you. I just feel we must make this known. People must know these things really are reality in far away nations. In agony, I think of this girl constantly-and I pray for her.
Will you join me today and pray for this girl too? And pray for justice for the hurting children in this nation.

2007-07-28T12:20:00.001-07:00

The 40 Day Fast

2007-07-18T07:56:00.000-07:00

There have been a few amazing bloggers posting about their fast and their cause. Here are two that have been impactful to me.
Andrew posted about the Dalit people. Read more here. The Dalit people group are very dear to my heart.
Shawn posted about what giving "a cup of cold water" looks like on his day. Read more here.
Click here to read about todays blogger and their cause.

Live in Today.

2007-07-16T14:09:00.001-07:00

Here's what we need to keep in mind.

We no longer have yesterday,
nor do we yet have tomorrow.
We only have today.

This is the day the Lord has made.
We must choose to live in it.

Need some new shoes??

2007-07-15T14:49:00.000-07:00

Today's blogger for the 40 Day Fast is .....

Tim Harms. He wrote a pretty amazing post on his blog. The organization he chose to highlight today was TOMS Shoes. For every pair of shoes purchased, Blake (the owner) will personally donate a pair to a child in need. It's that simple. Buy one pair, another gets donated.

Go check it out. TOMS Shoes

Maybe
your
in
need
of a
new
pair
of
shoes?

Someone asked me today...

2007-07-13T20:02:00.000-07:00

What does it mean to you when God says that His strength is made perfect through our weaknesses?

It was a good question. I'd like to share my answer with you.
This comes from one of my favorite passages written by Paul.

2 Corinthians 12 (Paul's Vision and His Thorn)

My answer was this.

I have strengths and weaknesses. I always think God wants to use just my strengths, but He also wants to use my weaknesses. "But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. " 1 COR 1:27 God loves to use weak people. There are places all over the Bible were God used imperfect weak people to accomplish extraordinary things.

When I think of weakness, I think thats a place God couldnt use. But God is never limited by our limitations!

Example:
I tend to be a grouch! I have to constantly admit it, and out of that weakness ask God for His strength. He continually helps me have a great attitude! My favorite verse that I meditate on daily is "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control." Galatians 5:22 Dont you know I can not do it without His help and strength!

I think we can learn from Paul with his "thorn" or weaknesses.
He was content with his weakness.
He chose to be vulnerable with his weakness.
And he glorified God in his weakness.

What are some of your weaknesses?