Last Sunday, we were at life group (a weekly time a group of people meet consistently to fellowship and learn more about the Bible, and pray for each other) and the adults were all together in one room, and the children were all together with our wonderful children leaders Kayla and Lee in different rooms. Each week all the children list out any prayer requests. My daughter Emily's prayer request was "That my Daddy and Mommy would not argue all the time."
Now, when I first heard about this special prayer request from the children's leader I sort of laughed it off, thinking kids say the darnest things. Then on the way home it started to seep in my pores and I began to think "WHAT? We don't fight all the time! What in the WORLD is Emily talking about?!"
I decided to go to Emily and get more information. I kindly thanked her for thinking of daddy and mommy, then asked her about the prayer request. I just wanted to get her perspective. "Well, you and daddy argue alot." those words cut through my heart as I asked her to give me a certain time she might have remembered us "arguing". Of course she couldn't think of a specific time.
SO later after the kids had gone to bed, Joel and I discussed this more. I had to put down all pride, hurts, and anger and really wanted to allow Emily to "sharpen" me. The Word, which is my source of Truth, says "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another". Proverbs 27:17
Honestly, Joel and I do not fight alot, but we did have to sit and re-evaluate to see what was Emily talking about. We concluded that even the slightest of arguments or any heated debates we have had in the past might appear to be an argument or fighting to our children. I'm glad they are sensitive to think of it that way- and I'm so thankful that we don't have full blown fights in front of our children. (I'm not saying we're perfect, Im sure there has been times were we went a little too far in a heated argument.)
On the other hand, it might be good to have more "constructive" opportunities to show our children that debates and discussions aren't necessarily bad. People will not always agree, and its good to have these times to talk it out. This has also alarmed us to watch ourselves if things start to get heated between us- we should wait it out when the kiddos aren't around.
So I share this, in hopes that others might use opportunities like these to allow themselves to be sharpened. Its hard to accept it from a child, but who better, when its coming from such a pure place. Joel and I learned alot from that simple prayer request, and I think the Lord answered it immediately.